[EP25] Why A Depressed Financial Advisor Chose Love Over Fear | Ruben Rojas

In this episode I was joined by Ruben Rojas. Ruben is a friend of mine that I met at an experiential leadership program down in Los Angeles back in 2013. At the time, he was a financial advisor (and had aspired to be a surgeon before then). During the time we spent together I saw him completely transform into the loving man, the artist, the husband and the father he is today.

And the transformation can be defined by one word….LOVE!

As Ruben says, “By living through love — showing it, sharing it, wearing it — you’re part of a movement set to shift the pendulum toward love and away from fear.”

Episode Topics

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5:01 | Ruben shares the vision behind his two Ted talks about “wall art” and “procrastinating”
8:16 | Ruben shares his massive transformational story from “financial advisor” to “love artist”
12:13 | Ruben speaks about why everyone’s journey is different…and perfect (for them)
16:28 | Ruben talks about what “love” means to him (and how its become a part of his being)
22:19 | Trevor explains what “love” means to him (and how Sri Sri Ravi Shankar impacted it)
23:51 | Ruben expresses that “fear” is not a bad thing and how the media has warped “love”
28:07 | Ruben shares why he’s committed to being the best version of himself to be the best father to his son
33:09 | Ruben explains what NFTs are and how they are impacting the artist world
42:56 | Who is the ONE person/mentor that has been most influential in your life (all time)
43:51 | Who is the ONE person/mentor that is the most influential in your life (right now)
45:35 | What is the ONE philanthropic cause that means the most to you and why?
49:18 | What is the ONE thing you are most grateful for in your life right now?
49:31 | What is the ONE thing that you are most curious about right now and wanting to explore more in your life?
50:29 | What is the ONE thing that scares you right now that you know you must meet with bravery?
54:48 | Where can people find out more about you and connect with you online?

Episode Quotes

“When we met, I was already at the point where I was depressed, I was miserable, I was unhappy and money wasn’t the solution or the answer. I knew that what I was doing (as a financial advisor) was not my purpose. It was only going to lead me down a path of more depression and misery.” – Ruben Rojas

“You could go a decade doing something and then completely pivot and choose to see it as either – well that was a waste of time – or – look at how this served me on the next step of my life” – Trevor Turnbull

“Why LOVE and the ethos of LOVE? It’s because we operate out of LOVE or we operate out of FEAR. Everything else goes under those two pillars. It’s the simplest way of choosing how we see this world. So, Live Through Love is the act of choosing LOVE over FEAR” – Ruben Rojas

“If someone wants to make me wear a mask because it makes them feel comfortable, then I’m going to wear a mask for them. It’s just respect for another human being. And, if they don’t care if I wear it or not, then I won’t wear it. It’s your decision. Just do your role to be a good human and a good person coming from LOVE” – Ruben Rojas

“I think every day should be Valentine’s Day for your significant other and for yourself. Take yourself on a date. Why is there a mandatory day for that? The media has warped LOVE, changed it’s meaning and downgraded it to romcoms and perfectly photoshopped ads” – Ruben Rojas

“My contract that I made with myself when we first me was – I AM a vulnerable, honest, romantic man. I remember choosing those words at that time because I felt they were things that I wasn’t truly being, but I wanted a constant reminder of who I actually am and how I get to be” – Trevor Turnbull

“What I realized in becoming a father is that it’s about my wife and I. It’s not about our kid. We are trying to be the best people we can be because we are the mirror, the example, he is looking at us. It’s not about us saying – do it this way or that – it’s about us actually doing it. I gotta show up” – Ruben Rojas

“My disclaimer, and it’s not biased to me, when it comes to buying NFTs I say – support the artists that actually have a practice in the real world versus fly by night people that are churning and burning. Those NFTs may have sold a lot and been hyped a lot and may disappear and lose their value. It is a gamble, we don’t know what’s going to play out. The good ones are the good ones” – Ruben Rojas